See my days are cold without you.
But I’m hurting while I’m with you.
And though my heart can’t take no more
I keep on running back to you.
I can say that I am fat but I am not wrong. I am not out of place. I am not useless. I am not unloved. I am not weak. I am not worthless! There’s a difference between someone being overweight/obese medically, and assuming who a person is based on their weight. Many people use someone’s weight to treat them poorly, or with disdain. The difference lies in the fact that people who are deemed “fat” are also deemed flawed - and people assume that they are weak; don’t care about themselves; lazy; or slobs. The media has used fat people as forms of comedy for years. They are either the villain, the bully or the laughing-stock. In real life, some of these people have endocrine disorders; illness; compulsive eating; or they’re lonely. People struggle with their own burdens like people struggle with cigarettes, alcohol, shopping addictions, and many many more things. The issue is that people who are overweight wear their issues, and people treat them thusly. I’ve seen the looks of disgust, surprise, and loathing people give to those who are overweight or obese. Why is being over weight considered a moral failing? Yes your BMI is considered high, but that doesn’t mean you should consider yourself any less deserving of love, dignity, kindness, and self-appreciation. Yes you are still indeed a human even though your medically overweight. Yes you are. Yes they are. And Yes I am. And when you finally have that self-love, then everything can fall into place.
Never allow the media; people; or even yourself to tell you that you deserve anything less.
“"The universe is ever expanding. Don’t let anyone tell you there is not room for you here."
From the poem: Things My Mother Never Taught Me
What about what I need?
What about what’s best for me?
What about how I feel?
What about me?